K, is it possible that this is just your H being who he and you're seeing it clearly now?

When we're in a loving (and/or codependent) relationship the tendency is to make allowances for behaviors, explain things away and fill in the gaps by overfunctioning. We don't want to see our partner as they really are because it causes fear.

You're doing fine and will continue to do fine. You'll have blips along the way.

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How do you get to a place where you can genuinely wish someone well that has been so hurtful?

You're getting there. It appears again that he's not being hurtful so much as he's just being him and you expect him to be someone else. Could that be true?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss