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Be is absolutely correct and they do wear rose colored glasses and believe what they are saying because it's their perception of how things were and continue to be at this time. It's called rewriting history to validate and justify why they walked out and are doing the things things are doing. As Bea stated, it's par for the course.

When they see that you are not reacting and/or defending your position, some will try a different tactic to get to you. But, again, it all depends upon the MLCer. It will get worse before it gets better, because it's coming down to the wire on money and we all know how mlcers are about their money and sharing it w/the spouses and children.

He's copying you on the emails so that it rocks your boat and makes you doubt yourself. They know us very well and will use our "weak" spots to get to us. Learn to allow this stuff to wash over you and come to realize it's not about you at all, but about him and I would venture to say that 95-99% of what he's saying is pure projection and he's actually referring to himself and not you. Sad, but true, and that's why you can't allow this stuff to get you down. They need to have a scapegoat so that they don't look bad to the world, but eventually all will be revealed in due time.

If the emails are upsetting you, don't open them. File them away in the spam folder or block him and even better, just delete them unread. All he's trying to do is justify why he left. It's difficult not to take this stuff personally, but you've got to find a way to let it go. Yes, it hurts, but consider the sick soul that is spewing is looking at life via tunnel vision.

Now, go and exercise your frustrations away. It's a new day and you know what type of relationship you had and who did what and when. You are remembering the "live" thoughts and he's revisiting the "Memorex" version. Projection at it's finest.