Well, I am so sorry that your stbx is doing this stuff, but it is totally par for the course.
As to WHY they do it, well, this is just mo, but they want to control reality. They want to be the good guy in all of this, and the only way they can do it is to vilify us. Copying us has the dual role of hurting us (they are hurting and want everyone else to) and informing us of their reality, to try and make it more 'real'.
My xh is STILL doing this. He has become a cruel manipulative lying stranger. Horrible to experience, and very very sad. Even divorce doesn't have to be this way.
But each party needs to take responsbility for what has happened, and this the MLCer will not do. Everything is always someone else's fault. It is the voice of abuse - Their feeling and your actions. Someone else 'made' them to do it.
When they know they have got to you they have 'won' in their minds, but a victory is never enough. They batter on and on. We have to learn to let is wash over us.
Do you need to have a sight of these emails? If not I would block them if they distress you.
