Bets, I have no intention of challenging your record in the dating timeout department.
It's been a year since I went to EE. I've been making it a habit to step outside my comfort zone. That feels good. And the universe has been sending gifts. I'm grateful. I'm happy.
You know I'm a huge fan of Pia Mellody (and I don't think anyone lands on this site without some codependency issues). She basically says that codependence = immaturity, which means we can outgrow it. I read her book on love addiction a few months ago. I think her definition of that is what most people think of as codependence. Anyway, timing or whatever, it hit me pretty hard. I decided it's time to bite the bullet an do whatever Pia says. Which means 12 step stuff. Anathema to me.
I realize that I searched until I found EFT/tapping after I saw EMDR have an immediate and profound positive effect on a DB friend way back when. I went to EE after witnessing similar profound positive effects on other DBers. And I couldn't help but notice that participating in Alanon helped Bug stay a saner than average course. Others, too, sometimes in other programs. I notice the sanity. That's what I'm aiming for.
WII, I'm trying to get in the habit of listening to some binaural "brain exercise" stuff early in the day and some isochronic, deeply meditative, entrainment stuff before bed. All of it from that site I mentioned. It feels great. I feel calm and happy. My habits aren't nearly habits yet, so it's a bit soon to claim anything beyond the placebo effect. Of course, I fully endorse anything that comes with a cat purr.
