"Best friend and sounding board" is a good sign. I get the same. Many here are not that fortunate. I suggest you build on this. If he's comfortable talking with you about this stuff, then that lessens the chance he'll talk to someone else about it, which could lead to an EA.

It's ok if you can't listen to certain things. It's ok to say "I'd prefer to not discuss this right now, can we talk about this another time". It's also ok to excuse yourself and leave the room to cry if you need to.

If you're not comfortable with ML, then don't do it. Many spouses went ahead and ML, and later regretted it.

Try to build comfortable and enjoyable time together, free of R talks. When he does initiate R talks, your job is to reassure him that you understand he is going through a difficult time right now. And that you are confident he will figure things out. Then let him do it, on his own. Keep focusing on yourself.

This is tough stuff, Daring. You are doing well. Bust On!

Last edited by ForeverYoung; 05/22/14 01:26 AM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl