Ignore it and even if your wife ends OM1, she will very likely end up with OM2.
I have never seen MWD advise to simply ignore an affair. I believe what she teaches is, you can't spend all your efforts attacking the affair and fail to work on your own issues, or else there will be no "better man" for your wife to come back to, even IF she decides to return to the marriage.
The "Little Bo-Peep" approach doesn't work. Affairs are highly addictive, and I don't know of ANY addictions that just go away on their own. In fact, most escalate.
Starsky
This is what is freaking me out. She claims that for our ten day vacation In December she did not contact the OM, but as soon as she went back to work she had the urge to do so! I tried to not get into lecturing her, but I did ask her if she is able to get her patients to give up their vice in just ten days! Of course she looked at me like I was retarted.
Now that she's planning to go to his country to see if she is ready to end it..BS...I am worried she will get sucked in further!
In NY when you do a collaborative divorce there is a licensed family therapist who acts as a neutral party. One of the main goals is for them to try and prevent the divorce.
You see where I am so stuck is that I will HAVE to sell my house to do a true 180 or Plan B. How can I avoid all contact with her and not leave the home! However, I CAN NOT afford to keep our house and rent an apartment.
