I think, but could be wrong, you are coming to the wrong conclusion about the OM, and keep going down this road you'll have some regrets. Are you seeing a DBing coach? What is this collaborative coach? Things are "...better than ever..", so you've excepted this OM in your life too? Are you wanting an open marriage? If so, ask your wife if it's okay with her while she has the OM if you can have an OW? Fair is Fair. I guess the positive thing is you two are open about this OM. Find out who is really in charge here. If it's mutual and you just don't want us to know then what are you doing here DBing? I spose you can have OM & OW and not get divorced. Is that what you want? Is it about you two getting along better than ever even if you share the other S with somebody else? Hey, people stay in marriages for the kids and other reasons and are in all kinds of Rs. I don't think that's what Michell had in mind for DBing though. Somebody correct me if I'm wrong?
