Oxford, I skimmed your posts. It sounds like you want someone here to determine what your boundaries should be. That's your job. For some, an A is a deal breaker. Others will turn a blind eye to infidelity and stay in a thankless and abusive marriage no matter what. For many, they are willing to work things out provided their spouse returns to the R and agrees to improve the M into what it should have been in the first place. Where on the scale do you fall?
It sounds like you are all over the place- you must get a hold of your emotions. Once you are calm and in touch with yourself, I think you'll know what to do. Asking for advice regarding a current course is one thing, but you seem to ask people on the board what "you should do" constantly. It's not our M- how do we know what you should do?
Not trying to attack you, just think you need to calm down and put your thoughts together.
-HS
Ok, I want I save my marriage. My wife and I get along better than ever, except she claims she is not ready to give up OM. My thoughts are wrapped around Michelle saying that most affairs burn out in two years...she seems from one of the internet videos to say to ignore it?
That's my confusion
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
