I told her that I did not believe in adultery or divorce, but that I understood and would stand by her. She told me that she thought that was completely unfair to me; I explained that it was not up to her to define what I was willing to sacrifice for our family.
Hi Canyou, I want to make sure I am understanding your post correctly. The way this reads, it kind of sounds as if you are telling her it's okay if she goes on and has the A. Then you refer to this again by saying you are willing to sacrifice for your family. Does that mean you sacrifice by tolerating her A, or what?
What really confuses me is that you didn't ask for support or any questions regarding your W being in an A, but instead are asking help about understanding your W's manic energy.
Is this all related somehow? Your thread is named Men Supporting their MLC Wives, so why do you think your W is in MLC? Does she have a history of depression and manic behavior? How is this connected with her A and what you told her? I'm just trying to figure it all out.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
