Reach out or stay dark?

[Anders]

Update: W and I were to talk yesterday about the D discussion but it didn't happen. I didn't call nor did she.

I am not certain what this means. We have both been conflict averse. My thought was that if she wants the D, then she should take the lead on any discussions and actions on that. However, does this bring up the issue of my not taking initiative, when in this case I do not want the D?

Her parents are with her now. I don't know what she has told them but do wonder if they, eager to have her move on from her pain, would help her with the D process and even accelerate it. An unfortunate pattern has been them stepping in to help her out with various things, including finances, even as an adult.

This was a recurring issue I brought up in the past. In this case, I don't know how to handle it if true.

Do I approach her parents first and let them know I haven't given up yet and that we need space and time?

OR

Do I just wait it out and see what she does, with or without her parents?