DBing isn't meant to cater to the S who wants the big D. We don't want the big D and are trying to DB to get our S to wake up! Along the way we grow, learn, and hopefully encourage our S to work on our R and grow together towards a healthy M. Well, with that said, the S and others don't like to see us GALing because we should be the whimpering, poor pitiful me S who got dumped. The truth is it's the one who left the M and isn't trying who should be acting like he/she lost something special. How screwed up is our R's and M's and families, anyway? Don't join them and keep DBing. The exMIL's influence on your ex is probably 1 reason why your 1st marriage didn't work. Relate with positive people and find people who aren't going to talk out your R or M in a negative way.
