Personally I don't really see where MCing is going to be fruitful in your wife's current wayward state.
Very true, and the key word here is "wayward". You might bust the A, but a wayward W is a harder to nut to crack.
Zew, these single women who have been M & D a couple of times seem to be the role model your W has chosen. Instead of focusing on being a W and mother, she wants to acts single. When they are out for drinks, I'm sure flirting is encouraged. They feed off each other.
Not that a WAW doesn't generate enough of her own wayward fuel, but this posse of hers seems to be like poison to working things out anytime soon.
Well, you certainly have a big problem. She's not in a great love affair with the OM, b/c she's too quick to replace him with the possibility of a new man. That spells out things pretty plain. She just wants to kick up her heels. And if she has a history of taking no responsibility for her actions, then trying to force her to do it now...may be a losing battle.
Without some serious loss, or some type of crises in her life, it may go on like this for a long time.
I agree with Starsky about MC not helping at this point. If her attitude was different and she wasn't already back out there looking for a new affair partner, it could be at least hopeful. I was hoping you had left out a lot of conversation from that Friday, and maybe she had a change of heart....but it sure doesn't sound like that's what happened.
How did things end over the bedroom battle? Last I heard, you two were having a race over shifting clothes around.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
