Don't be so hard on yourself. None of us are perfect. You know by now that this process is more about improving yourself than it is about your relationship with your wife and part of that, I feel, is learning who you are, what you represent and living your life according to those beliefs. That's not to say you should never forgive your wife; I hope she sorts her sh!t out and you do. It just means you should have self-respect and make sure your wife's actions back up her words, much like you've been learning to do since BD.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014