Thanks adinva, zew, Bunches, and JennD for sharing your experiences. I really appreciate it.
Jenn - We definitely seem to be on the same track. I could have written your post myself! Right after BD, I made a point to keep my rings on from first thing in the morning until I went to bed at night. Previously, I would take them off as soon as I got home each day. After BD, I also found myself fidgeting with my rings A LOT.
My H stopped wearing his ring a couple of months before BD. That probably should have been a huge red flag. Oh well...love that 20/20 hindsight. When I asked him why he wasn't wearing it, he said he had gotten something stick on it and couldn't get it clean. So, I surprised him one day by taking his ring and mine to the jewelry store and having them cleaned. After that, he wore it inconsistently. When he first moved out, he would make a big deal of pointing out to me that he was wearing it, but it was still inconsistent. He also made several comments about needing to get it resized "if things worked out" because it was too big and he was afraid of losing it (which is the reason he gave for only wearing it sometimes). I haven't seen him wear it in probably two months now.
Originally Posted By: JennD
Like Adinva, I agree with the idea that I wear them until I'm not married. But I have recently stopped wearing my engagment ring.
I don't know if I can explain this to make sense, but in my mind, H gave that to me as a choice when we were dating to become engaged. So if that feeling is not there, I won't wear it
I have also come to the conclusion that I will continue to wear my wedding band until I'm not married. To me, it is a symbol of the commitment I made that day and I haven't chosen to "un-make" that commitment. I have had similar thoughts to you with regard to my engagement ring. You've actually just put it into words for me
Originally Posted By: JennD
(In my mind I have secretly planned that if we can work this out that we will take and melt down the wedding rings and engagment ring and make new rings...sigh....)
I have secret plans, too!! I've thought that if we end up D and then end up reconciling (which H believes to be a possibility), that H should get me a new engagement ring because the other one wouldn't count any more. That may only make sense to me, lol.
