hope456 - accepting my new reality

[JennD]

Hi Hope. You and I seem tobe on the same track! I too have that debate. When BD first happened, I made a point of making sure I was always wearing them.

Now I struggle with them. H stopped esring them just before BD (initally telling me he couldn't wear them when rock climbing and that he forgot to put them back on). Like Adinva, I agree with the idea that I wear them until I'm not married. But I have recently stopped wearing my engagment ring.

I don't know if I can explain this to make sense, but in my mind, H gave that to me as a choice when we were dating to become engaged. So if that feeling is not there, I won't wear it.

But the wedding ring is different - we exchanged rings and said vows over these rings. That I wear until we are no longer married.

(In my mind I have secretly planned that if we can work this out that we will take and melt down the wedding rings and engagment ring and make new rings...sigh....)