Left Behind Newlywed

[KGirl]

Like you, we don't have any kids, so the main things I talked about when I consulted with a lawyer were the house and then financial accounts (bank, retirement, ec.) It turns out that where I live, given we've only been married a few years, the status quo is to restore each person to what they had before the marriage, rather than split it equally. I had a lot of questions about how it would work with the house given that I'm moving out but we weren't legally separated (Does anything happen to my equity if I move out? How much equity will I be entitled to? How will it work later if he wants to buy me out of the house?) You may want to ask about her obligation for the mortgage, what you'd owe her if you bought her out of the house, the refinancing process, under what circumstances is she legally entitled to enter the house, how would you go about transferring the title... this is something family lawyers handle all the time so they should be able to give you a rundown of how it would work and what happens.

I took down pictures the same week H dropped the bomb, and they've been packed away in a box ever since. They certainly didn't make me feel any better - just sad about spending that time and $ for the wedding only to hear that H supposedly didn't want to get M anyway.