Thanks Owl. Oh he is a total stranger, alright. I truly do not know who I am married to now. Makes me sad to think that good, kind person is gone...Attorney did tell me that he can get all of my H's credit card records for at least the past year. If we do get to the D, I will get back half of what he has been spending on trips to see OW, and all related expenses. Our credit cards have always been separate but bank accounts still joint.
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15