Upwards - Needing support, tough times ahead

[Upwards]

As far as dating goes, think about that. Most people start dating way too early.

I have no intention of rushing into a relationship or anything like that, I just feel ready to open the door of possibility, i'll be taking it slowly & if its too soon for me then I can wait a while longer.

As far as standing for your M....that is a personal choice. Some people don't stand long, others stand for years. No one can make that decision but you. When I was in the middle of it, I decided I would stand until I became "the man only a fool would leave." At that point, if she still wanted out, then she was a fool and I didn't want that for myself. I never regretted that decision.

It is painful to stand by and watch my H move on with is life, date other women & completely disregard his marriage vows and in turn disrespect me as his wife. There is only so much rejection a person can take & i've come to a point where his constant negativity and way of life only brings me pain, he brings nothing positive to my life at this time - I am unwilling to be in that position anymore, I deserve better & if he can't see that then it really is his loss! He's even told me that he's a fool to leave an amazing woman like me, but he's still left.... so yes he's a FOOL lol.

I would have done everything it takes to work at my marriage & create a relationship that both myself and my H were happy with but he's made his decision on the path that he wants to take and I have to respect that. I feel like I'm where I need to be right now & I have found a lot of peace with that.

Lastly, make sure you keep your kids in the forefront of your thoughts. There's a lot more going on there than you can imagine. As you start really detaching, you're going to see some effects in/on them.

They are absolutely and ALWAYS at the forefront of my mind, I would never do anything that would impact on them in a negative way and I'm supporting them through this as best I can they're doing much better because i'm doing better I think.

I think you're doing great....but as you face some of these terribly difficult choices, make sure you step back and look at the big picture. Make sure you move forward without regret.

Thank you, I havent made any of these decisions lightly - as always I appreciate your advice & perspective Breakdown.