As far as dating goes, think about that. Most people start dating way too early. For me, I made a decision that I wouldn't date until I was D'd....not for W, but because of how much I respect M. I didn't want to look back and ever think, "I wish I'd have done that different."
As far as standing for your M....that is a personal choice. Some people don't stand long, others stand for years. No one can make that decision but you. When I was in the middle of it, I decided I would stand until I became "the man only a fool would leave." At that point, if she still wanted out, then she was a fool and I didn't want that for myself. I never regretted that decision.
Lastly, make sure you keep your kids in the forefront of your thoughts. There's a lot more going on there than you can imagine. As you start really detaching, you're going to see some effects in/on them.
Regarding friends/family...this isn't new news. DB/DR speaks directly to this. Of course they want you to move on....they want you to be happy as quickly as possible. Don't let them make the decision for you....you decide when you are finished standing.
Forgiving....extremely important. Not just your H though...forgive yourself for your part in this as well.
I think you're doing great....but as you face some of these terribly difficult choices, make sure you step back and look at the big picture. Make sure you move forward without regret.
