BD and 6 mts later PA confirmed

[Bunches]

So two weeks ago I found out about A that also made things seem like the A fizzled out. W was at the house last night and made some comments letting me know that the relationship ended and by the sounds of it she got dropped / suddenly ignored for the next girl on OM list.

Anyhow, W made some apologies saying she knows now how much that hurts and said she would not see anyone else while we are married. She still doesn't have money to file, she did ask me if I filed but said nothing else about it. I said no, which I haven't filed paperwork yet. Kept putting it off.

Just wanted to make sure I'm clear though. OM is out, supposedly but W is not making move to R. No pursuit still, right? I mean, this is time to pull away and see if she comes to me, am I right? I realize that I should not be thinking about R myself and should still be focusing on me but of course I can't help but think...