Please keep in mind that this is the second time around and they will do things differently and in some cases, are far worse in acting out.
Continue as you have been doing and try not to push his buttons if you don't want the monster to come out and play. The less pressure, the more he'll be chatty and gravitate towards you, i.e., like a moth to a candle.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
