If he's looking for an apartment, then the window of time where he has noplace to take them for his nights with them is a limited amount of time. Get through it in the way that is best for the kids and okay for you.
I toyed with for a while the idea of asking H to pay for me to have a hotel room so I could have respite while he is overnight with the kids. You don't have to stay in HIS hotel room, I would also have an emotional problem with that. But you could stay somewhere, use the gym and hot tub, get a manicure, ask him to pay for it for you so that he can be with the kids until he has an appropriate home for them to come to.
That would be my first choice because a mom needs respite.
Second choice would be letting him stay in the guestroom while you stay in your room but definitely go out and don't hang around.
Whatever you decide as a way to handle this can be modified next time if you feel it didn't work out well, and will definitely change when he's in a permanent place where the kids have rooms. So just get through it for now and observe what is best for the kids.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
