2nd time around part 2

[TL72*]

yes it's normal for MLC. Mine took next to nothing, insisted on a divorce and filed very quickly and it was over within a few months. Faster than most. He would not consider counseling or anything. This is HIS problem, let HIM do the work if he wants a divorce, HE can file it, he can make any arrangements. I was the one in the relationship that handled everything and I stepped back and let him do the whole thing. Do not fight with him, just refuse to. He's trying to fight with you to alleviate his guilt probably, it's easier to leave when someone is angry at you or you're angry at them. Just respond - don't react. You can set boundaries, walk away and go for a walk or a drive to calm down. Leave him be to go through this on his own. Take care of yourself - you cannot fix it, nor can you control it, you did not cause it, detach detach detach read all the resources again to refresh your mind, look at it from a beginner's mind they say. keep posting. it does get better.