So my W just called and it was a bit of a conversation. First she said that she was trying to get care set up in the area, and asked if I could get their medical records. I didn't tell her what I plan to do today. That was hard.
Secondly, I asked what her plans were for getting a job, and apartment, and a car since that was originally our agreed upon plan. And she said, well you know I'm a procrastinator so I'll do it when I do it. I told her that I was concerned for the kids and wanted to make sure their well being was our top priority. I stated that it wasn't about me and her it was about their well being, and she said well we have a free place to stay so it's fine.
I'm not willing to accept that. They deserve more than that and I will provide it for them even if it enrages her. I can just see the path this is going, because she was getting super angry at me just asking about those small things. I tried to remain calm, but my heart rate did increase.
She also stated that she wanted a divorce for the first time. So I asked her the status of it, and she said, "I don't know it's not like I've ever been divorced before." I probably went too far when I said that she should be focused on getting her life in order instead of jumping into a full blown relationship with another man not even 3 weeks after we seperated. I don't know though, this is very rough for me. I don't want to give up hope, but she can be so mean.
Me-33,W-26 M-4 yrs, T-5 years S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed) Apr 2014 B date End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's