New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks

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Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks Ggrass #2453801 05/20/14 02:18 PM
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OP LiveNow Member L Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 242 Michigan	Thanks Daring and Ggrass. H finally showed up and cut the lawn yesterday (while I was at work). Now something new has come up. FYI - quick background. 1 month ago he said he wants to 'end the marriage' (something he's already basically said -- just using different words -- at least 4 times since last June). And he asked whether I thought mediation was an option for us. I said I would think about it and let him know. I let about a month go by and e-mailed, saying it didn't matter to me which method we use because the end result would be the same (we would be divorced). He replied saying he would 'find a mediator in our area.' This was 1 week ago. If he wants D, I'm forcing him to do the work. Since I found out about OW (Feb.), his monthly credit card bill has increased each month. (The bill comes here to the house, I do not open it, and he generally pays it online, so I do not see the charges.) This month, the bill was larger than what he makes in 1 month, so basically, he is not really contributing to household bills anymore (I am still in the house, we have another house, and he currently lives with sister for free), with this kind of spending. I know this forum is not for legal advice (and I have not yet retained an attorney), but what on earth do I do if this continues? I am trying not to say anything -- this would be a 180 for me because I was always hesitant to spend money in the past on things that weren't 'necessary' (but to a degree, so was he -- always a responsible spender). This is 3 months in a row now of LARGE credit card bills for him. This last (huge) bill (hardcopy) is sitting in the kitchen unopened. I am SO tempted to open it and find out where all our money is going, once and for all. This would also tell me how involved he really is with OW - I do know they are still involved, and I think it's getting more so lately, but that's just my feeling, judging by how much more detached he is getting - less and less contact recently. I know this is snooping - but he is now spending MY money too. What to do? Right now, his paycheck still goes into our household account automatically. God help me maintain my sanity in this...don't know how much longer I can take the limbo. Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15

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New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/04/14 01:30 AM
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Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	owl777	04/07/14 06:20 PM
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