Detach! Not just from him, but the "things". In the spirit of Clare7's post, remove the emotion from it.
I hope I don't come off as abrasive... but in the grand scheme of things, are the S&P shakers and Gnomes that important?
While i am not suggesting you roll on the "Ming Vase or Picasso", let him take the tissues. Act "as if".
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13