Upwards - Needing support, tough times ahead

[soldier]

Hello Upwards, I have not read your hold thread but caught this latest post you made this morning and it struck me as a common chord that I have had. I am new to the DBing having only been doing this for 2 months but my W seems so distant and cold that I too feel sometimes that I may be wasting my time. At two months this is way too soon to throw in the towel for me but I guess I am just saying that I feel some of what your last post expressed. I know we are not supposed to create a time frame for these things as if anything happens it will be on the WAS’s time but at the same token I think we do have to decided how long we are willing to wait and be lonely. I myself have said that I would really try and stick it out for 4 more months which would put me at half a year. At this time I want to re-evaluate where I am at and where I want to go. I got married because I wanted to be with my best friend for the rest of my life. This separation hurts me to the core and every day feels like eternity. This is mainly because currently we don’t even have a friendship.

I think you are very brave to have come to the realizations that you have and I really hope that regardless of what the future will hold for you, everything works out for you in the end. I also hope that when my time for realization comes, I can be just as brave.