Reach out or stay dark?

[Anders]

A lot of good reflection today. One of my fixings is to be a lot more assertive in our relationship and being a leader.

A constant complaint was that she felt she was doing everything on her own. She said wanted a partnership.

I thought I was doing everything to help her with chores and what not. Turns out in hindsight, it was that I was very passive with decision making and almost too laid back. At the time we both felt it was more than just the chores but couldn't get past that as an issue even with MC. It just becomes a blame game. Whatever she decided was fine by me which drove her nuts and made me very confused.

Regardless of what happens between us, I really need to work on this.

Can anyone point me to success stories here where the LBH had to deal with this?

And,

How do I provide leadership with the D discussion tomorrow without pursuing while at the same time not burning any chances?

I have been mulling it over but not sure how to proceed.