KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

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KGirl, My W and I are almost at the inventory stage also. She keeps saying she wants to negotiate or do these type things together but when I ask her what her thinking is on want she wants moneywise and furniture etc... She backs away and says my L will talk to your L in those regards.

When I tell her it will save money if we did it by ourselves which is what she has indicated that she wants. She says I don't want to talk about it.

Im not sure if she doesn't trust me or if doing it together would bring up too many memories of the good days that we had and be too emotional for the both of us.

Like you my W and I both attach feelings to little things that shouldn't matter but when it comes to dividing them it may be extremely emotional in a sad way not an angry way.

IMO my W has done a tremendous job of removing herself from emotional sitchs just before it comes to the point where it may change her position to D.

It happened last night at viewing for my Aunt who passed away.

THis Aunt and Uncle have always been favorites of my W and they love her to pieces.

My Uncle has a little knowledge of our current predicament but not any specific details.

My W politely asked if I minded if she attended to pay her respects I said I absolutely think that would be well received and that it was fine with me.

When she saw my Uncle and gave him a hug and kiss and then another and still a third then teared up. I knew she wouldn't be staying long.

She then paid her respects to my Aunt and went in the hallway. I came out to see if she was ok and she said that she had to leave. I said ok I will see you at home.

My Uncle mentioned me as her husband and a cousin introduced her as my wife all very innocent because of lack of knowledge but I know that had an effect on my W. Just not sure whether it was sadness or anger.

My family truly loves my W and she has mentioned quite few times how she wants to keep in touch with them but doesn't want to be M to me.

I am not against her talking with any of my family but I am not allowed to talk to hers. I respect that request but I do miss her family terribly.