What if you just came up with a proposal-- go through room by room on your own and type up a list of how you might divide things (or what you would like to take with you). Then send him the list and offer a deadline for a counter proposal? Try to keep emotion out of it. Move on with grace and dignity-- make it like a business negotiation. You'll need to start packing by x date, so if you don't hear back by x (reasonable) date, you'll assume he is ok with what is on the list...
