It's been a while since I have been here. H and I don't communicate about much accept for the children. If anything else is talked about the nasty fight begins. He loves to still tell me how much he hates me and wants a divorce. No divorce proceedings have happened. We started an online one and he didn't show up to go over it so I said forget it. It is always up to me to do it. He hasn't done anything on own just says he is going to when he gets money?? He has taken a few items outside with my insisting and the rest of his clothes. All the rest of his stuff is here and doesn't care to get it out?? He admitted he loved OW, but still says you don't know what could happen. We don't live in the same city (3 hrs away) and neither of us will move. You don't know that I might not date someone else. Nothing is forever, like our marriage!! (that's me talking). H has been VERY angry at me because I sent an email to hi OW regarding us and that he was lying about our contact. H convinced her it was BS and told me it was none of her business. OW soon to be ex husband contacted me from a message I send in October. H was furious that I told him everything. As he had no idea, just thought she wanted a divorce... Anyway, this has made him "hate" me and communication has been pretty bad and I keep it at a minimum. We had a party for out kid14th bday this weekend and it went well. We were together about 6 hours. Until, H ow was brought up, by me, . I just asked if she was okay with him being here. H blew up at me.....ugh. The topic of her is off limits!! That's fine with me and best I know. I do wonder why they are so sensitive when it comes to talking to about OW... When he though I was seeing someone he asked 100 questions. He no longer asks anything I do and I can see he really has disconnected from anything me! He has a very short fuse. H did mention he doesn't talk/test 50 times a day anymore..not sure I believe but is has been about 6 mos. And how long can a long distance relations really last as well as an affair on both sides?? HE no longer wants to be friends. Just try to be civil.... I have been GAL, counseling, and doing my best not to think about him. I am about 85% disconnected but I still have that 15% of hope to try and reconcile. There is just so much to have to overcome. I have started going out with my friend and working on dating..... Any suggestions or advice is appreciated.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
. I just asked if she was okay with him being here. H blew up at me.....ugh. The topic of her is off limits!! That's fine with me and best I know.