Wife doesn't feel it... (Part 2)

[cat04]

Corbean,

First I want to say that my career and passion is working with the special needs population and I do believe that the proper therapies at the right time can make a huge difference in their quality of life.

So I can understand and support your wanting that for your D.

That being said, I would like you to make sure that you are acting in the correct way for the right reasons.

What happened to looking into a temporary custody order?

In just a few posts and one conversation that did not go the way that you wanted it to, you suddenly flipped back to filing for D...

Explore all of the options. That would be the best course of action.

I also want to say that I have read all of your posts. I see some things that are huge red flags for me.

I believe the real reason you want to file is because you are angry with your W for having an A (that I am not even sure is really happening, unless you left out some details.)

I see you standing on a soapbox and talking about how immoral and disrespectful towards you she is being.

I also see you saying you want to be a different and better man in one post and then in the next post you show your old self clearly.

Your porn issue...any particular reason that it took your W leaving to get you to stop?

While I don't necessarily have a problem with pornography (it can actually be a nice addition to a healthy relationship), it can be very problematic to a relationship when abused.

To many women, it shows a lack of respect for them. It can also make them feel inadequate and undesirable. And like they are being cheated on, with someone who only exists in pictures, which can actually be worse than if it were a real person.

If a woman asks a man to stop or not look at it, I believe it is important for that man to stop. If he doesn't, it shows a complete disregard for her feelings.

So for me, the moral soapbox of pornography isn't about the actual looking, it is about the effects of that activity.

I would like you to think about that before you decide to hold her feet to the fire for what you believe she is doing right now, because it isn't any different than what you did.

Leave the judgement to God. He is the only one qualified to hand that down.