choosing door #2 - next part in my journey

[TL72*]

Thanks cc, LN and GB
My instincts tell me he was checking up on me. He loves the dogs but he spends about 5 minutes with them and the rest of the time watching tv lol. could just be lonely. I did ok afterward - no tears, no anything really - I literally just went on with my day like normal, I think I'm finally detaching better. He emailed today because the health insurance still shows "active" even though I cancelled it. I had to call my benefits department and they're submitting a ticket to resolve it. Apparently he can't get his new insurance turned on until the old one is turned off. He apologized for the hassle - which is new, he never apologizes for anything. It was suggested to me that next time (if there is a next time) he wants to come over to visit the dogs that i should let him in and then leave for an errand and let him visit the dogs. then come back when it's time for him to leave. That way he could be clear on the fact that he's visiting the dogs and if he wants to visit ME he would have to say so or ask. what are your thoughts on this? If he truly wants to visit the dogs, I don't want to stop him, they were our kids and if it were me i'd want to visit my dogs for sure. I'm not sure I trust him in the house alone though, not that he would steal, but probably snoop. I have nothing to hide, I would take the laptop and cell phone with me of course but still not sure. I could just go outside and do yardwork while he's inside. I was trying to be a friend to him, although I don't ask any questions, I let him start the conversations. we only talked about the weather, the dogs, and tv shows we both watch. GB I know it's not funny about your H bringing the dog back already but it is sort of is. not really haha funny but just rolling your eyes kinda funny. somewhat expected even though we aren't supposed to have expectations. It was super nice of you to let him have the dog, at least that way he brought him back and saw for himself that you were willing to give and that he just couldn't handle it. If you had said no it would have just been another reason for him to blame you for something. I'm glad mine didn't ask to take any pets.