Reach out or stay dark?

[Anders]

You are right Riley. Trying very hard to focus on my journey and allow her to go through hers. I need a break from our home right now with so many reminders of the life we had planned. Planning to visit my B and his I wife for a few days to get away.

I am beginning to wonder if she is going through a MLC. She had applied but didn't get into an MBA prog. which she is taking very hard. This had been on her must do list. This was right after our major falling out and during the period of Going dark these past couple of months. Her self esteem took a major hit (her words).

She got support from EA and friends which I think reinforced for her we are not meant to be together. She talked about taking time away for rest of this year to travel, work part time, live with a younger female friend (27) who is in school to experience life, including seeing other people. I may be reaching here but at times,some of the words and phrases she used to describe her plans felt like she was rehashing what her new friends my be advising her to do.

I can't stop her but I'm really hoping she does not go through with a PA. Working on detaching and GAL.

We are talking tomorrow about the D logistics. I don't want a D but feel that saying no would only make her more determined to do it.