KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[KGirl]

Pluto - I'm a little worried about the finances and "taking stock", as you say, because I'll only have been in my new place a month. I think I'll be OK, though - our situations are reversed. I'm leaving the house, and our agreement is that H will pay ALL bills associated with the house, plus the mortgage in full. He wants to buy the house from me, so this will be a good test run to see if he can do it before doing anything legal and being forced to refinance. My rent is going to be a little more than my half of the mortgage was, and bills should be comparable if not less (I won't need cable - H needed that for sports!). It will be more expensive solo but not unmangeable, I think. I was a little stressed thinking of all the things I could instead be doing with this money (pay off a student loan! get a car so I don't have to borrow one from my parents!) but those are things I can ponder when I get back. It's time to do something enjoyable.

labug - yes, I spent too much time worrying about the past and the future, not enough in the present. I always felt like it was good to worry about the future - at work that was considered "detail-oriented" and "thinking through all possible outcomes" which was valued, but there can be too much of a good thing. I caught myself this morning ruminating over "What if H told me today he wants stay M and work on things? What would I do? Can I ever trust him or get over this?" but put myself on pause and said "There'll be plenty of time to think about that if that happens. Think about it then. He doesn't need an answer right away." I think you had recommended The Happiness Trap to someone at one point, and it has been very helpful in that regard.

woundedfool - I'm going Sun-Thurs, last week in June. It will be hot but, it's the soonest I can get away midweek! I'm thinking I'll stay at the Monte Carlo - nice balance of Strip location/cost, and not a dump, IMO. I found a deal that's about $45 a night for the basic room (before the resort fees but that's pretty standard for any hotel, I think?) plus a $75 food/drink credit at their pub restaurant. Seems like a lot of credit to spend at one restaurant but I suppose a couple of drinks will put a big dent in it