Both of your D's are old enough to make their own decisions in that regard. If your D does not want to go, SHE needs to be the one voicing that to her mother, with your support.
Personally, I'm not sure how she can be forced to go if there is a parent willing to be home with her. (It isn't like you and W are going away for vacation or anything.)
I don't know how much you can do legally to stop it, that would be something that you would need to look into, however on a parenting level, I would think it should be up to your D.
And I don't see THAT as poisoning your D against your W or GF. I see it as supporting your D in her decision. And I think it is something you should support her in.
Leaving your feelings about it out of it entirely.
What I see and what your W sees are going to be two very different things though.
I do think you need to step back from the situation to see it more clearly. More objectivly.
I will get to the other stuff in a little while. I need to think a bit more on it.
I would like to suggest that you read back through your posts with the lens of someone who isn't living it.
See how the person writing looks to you. See if you can see how obvious the emotions of the writer are.
This type of forum actually gives us the opportunity to see ourselves how others might see us if we take the time to look at it from the outside.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
