Documenting/updating (not much to say but I don't want my thread to get lost in the shuffle! )
I have had contact with H a few times. I think I'm goin to have to switch to be the one who does the contacting first. It pains me to do so,which is my pride speaking so I know I need to take a look at my motivations. I have been told by more than one person that I need to leave my pride out of this and do what's best for the M. So, in keeping with MWD philosophy, contacting him works- he will get back to me almost immediately most of the time and then he will engage in several more convos that are friendly/caring. If I wait for him to do it first, we get in to the multiple week holding pattern that we just got out of...So, I'll experiment with taking the lead- because te other way around is not working for me!
Positives: I painted the kitchen cabinets white and changed the curtains in the adjoining living room. The house has a whole new feel and I love it! And I bought myself patio furniture for Mother's Day (I deserved it!), which can be seen from the same living room- it just has a lighter, more positive feel in that side of the house. It feels "different". I needed that.
I also cut my 5k time by 1:30!!!! My goal is to get my time down to under 30 minutes by this time next year. I'm at 33 right now. As long as it doesn't get stifling hot, I should be able to run as much as I like. ( it's Ohio, though...in about a month the humidity will be suffocating). I actually enjoy running now- I wish I had started when I was younger!
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5