I am new to this but have reading alot of threads. Very helpful. My H declared he has been working on your marriage for years and cannot do it anymore. (wish he would have told me he was working on it). He moved out of bed end of march and things have progressed very slow. We do counseling for our kids but lots of good internal reflection has come out of on my end. We both see a counselor separately. I started the process like everyone else begging,crying the whole bit. Progressed to showing I care which didn't work so I am doing the 180 and disengaging. Trying to go about my life. Hardest thing to do is to pretend to be happy. We have 3 kids together and right now all they know is mom and dad are having problems and dad is sleeping in the spare room. Although H has made it clear that he is not working on us. I struggle everyday and hope for a reconciliation but it looks bleak. We always had an up and down marriage like lost people. I feel like our counselor really opened our eyes to the root of the problem.....communication or lack of. Along with busy life. I think he gave us a good foundation to work from. But again H feels like he has tried and has nothing else to give. I'm so frustrated that I feel like giving up sometimes. What really is the stats of people reconciling because I feel hopeless.
