Is this normal? And how do I handle it?

[Bunches]

Yes, its really just a matter of sitting back and not paying attention to what she is doing while working on you. I mean, seeing the lawyer to establish custody for those reasons may piss her off but its not about hurting her, it hopefully is all about the kids. Careful though about how you are finding this information out. I worry that you are still snooping.

Some things you do will tend to piss off W, but thats why you have to be honest with yourself about reasons you do things. Things you decide need to be about you and the kids. And you can't run around scared of how that will change her attitude toward you. I've heard Starsky say it several times. Things we do may piss them off today but they could be proud of us for it tomorrow.