Wow that's exactly what I needed to hear. I've been trying so hard to just plant a seed to even hope she would reconsider, but I know it's wrong. I do have to let completely go and I feel like I have in a sense of not being all textie and calling a lot. Except for my kids. One of my major problems is that I seem to always want to make things better fast. Patience with me has always been a weakness, but I'm learning through growth and a lot of 2x4s that this is not on my time line or her time line it's on God's timeline. I have so many people praying for my marriage and my wife so I will just remain faithful and pray more. Lol I guess the hardest part of faith is getting no feedback until God tells you. I've been letting fear control me, fear that she's really gone, that she will go past the point of no return, that she will never think of me again, that she will get pregnant or something. But reading your post makes me realize that's not faith at all. And the fact that she isn't in a relationship with God at all &as made me afraid that she wouldn't even listen if he did reach out.

You know I was considering doing small acts of love after reading the Love Dare, like leaving her favorite cupcake in the car when we switch vehicles or something. Not for a thank you but just because, and to let her know I still care and do want to value her. However, your rules and the book say that will only push her farther away so I'll refrain. Guess I have some praying to do.


Me-33,W-26
M-4 yrs, T-5 years
S- 2 D- 4 (Special needs, undiagnosed)
Apr 2014 B date
End of April 2014 Moved in with parent's