I think LFW has a good point . . . I know that when I would have good times and ML with my H, I would feel much worse afterward when nothing changed. Your boundaries are there to protect you. Your H knows exactly what he needs to do, but refuses to do so. I think you are normally pretty good with enforcing your boundaries, but when you drop them (esp. to ML), it just shows him that you are still on his hook, and he can break you down.
Regardless, I think you are doing the absolute right thing here. You really do not need to play family with H anymore. I think it is creating expectations in you that you should not have, and it is allowing your H to gobble down cake to boot.
You WILL get stronger and stronger and you will get used to your new situation. It's not a situation anyone wants to get used to, but when you have no choice, well, you make it happen.
I think talking with the L and the child psych will be really good - the more info you have, the better.
Hang in there, you might not feel strong but we all know how strong you are!!
((boyz))
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
