Lois, I am so sorry for what you are going through.. I also saw myself in other' s story. When I could relate to them, it was validating myself that I wasn' t the irrational one like XH claimed me to be. I have doubted myself for so long in the past and since I have REFUSED to allow him to shame me, I got my self-esteem back. It has been nothing but upward for me. Still very difficult at times but I will make it to the top where his anger won' t bother me anymore. As you can see, I am not quite there yet. When I look back at the past 5 years, I AM IN DISBELEIVE that I could make it through all of it. The way people in this town look at me and treat me is mind-blowing. They make me feel sooo good. They have much admiration and respect for all of us. They look-up to me. I am bless in many ways. I rebuild myself and our life quite nicely.
