I had a similar dilemma with W and I's shared calendars. There was a part of me that was putting certain things on there to show I was GAL, hoping she would see them and miss me. It took me a while to realize this was a completely wrong approach and preventing me from focusing on working on myself for me and not simply doing things to win her back.

It took a while to delete my access to her calendar as it felt like I was severing one more link between us (long distance marriage). But wise words from the forum are that letting go and giving up are not the same thing.

M:36 W:34
T:9,M:4
Me,WAH:7/2011
My apology:12/2012
Her,WAW:01/2013
ILYBINILWY:4/2013
W's EA:5/2013
Sep:9/2013
2nd EA signs:03/2014