Dealing with an ongoing affair

[PeterV2]

Interesting…
I had left the pamphlet HOW TO PERMANENTLY END THE AFFAIR by Suzie Johnston on my credenza. Attached to it were the 3 Dear John notes I composed.
I was away all day with my boys on a hike and W spent the day at our house. I came home and she had already left but I noticed that the pamphlet was not in the same position I left it. We spoke on the phone a couple of times today and there was no indication of upset. In fact I asked if she wanted to join me at the jazz club this evening and she said she would, but first she’s meeting some girlfriends.
Yesterday we talked a lot and I said I’ll be deleting the crap that I wrote on my computer and then she can have access to my computer again. I also invited her to delete all old text messages, photos and contact info off her phone so we can start a new slate with transparency. She didn’t protest but I think she’s processing that request. She also talked again of going away, just the two of us – to see if we really want to go forward in our relationship together. I told her that I know I do but if she needs still to determine that then that’s fine. All in good time. She also said she wants to go see our MC by herself at first and then with the two of us together.
The live-in staff person signed the employment contract yesterday to move in June 1st but with the stipulation that W stay at RH overnight for the month of just so she can feel comfortable and safe. So that sort of puts W’s move back home at July 1st. We could then go away for a week. Our 6th anniversary is on July 10th so maybe we could coordinate it with that date.
So things are looking good, but she’s still tentative. I just need to continue on my improvement path and be the best I can be.