She says there is a guy she wants to meet in the future, a long time friend from childhood who lives in another country
I guarantee this is root to her new found need in "being true to herself and she can't do while with you". That is a lot BS talk to cover up her real purpose.
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1) If I do a 180, how do I deal with the affections we give eachother on a daily basis? All the hugging, cosing and small kisses. She is giving most of it. Im trying to remain calm and not show to much affections. If I hold back and dont allow it, will it not just drive her further away from me? 2) What about dining together, now we always eat together. Go out to a restaurant for dinner almost every day. Live in a cheap country, and not anything fancy. Should I stop this too? 3) Should I basically just forget that we live together and that she does not want to move just yet, and threat her as a roommate? 4) Should I move out, just to let her see how it will be without me? I think she would take this very hard.
Doing a 180 is taking the opposite of what you normally do. So that should answer questions 1-3. Plus, take into consideration she is apparently in an EA (which I'm gathering you didn't know at the time of your first post) and you should not continue with the actions of a loving & adoring H.
Number 4 is really up to you, but frankly, I think it's the best option at this time. Othefwise. I thinks she will cake eat and things will would continue till she gets ready to meet up with OM. If she just wants a friend and room mate, let her look elsewhere. Life is too short. But that's my opinion.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
