Newbie - bf suddenly left after 9 years

[Italian]

Thank you, Adinva, I'll look it up!

In Italian we call it the 'nurse syndrome' - when you're drawn to people who need help to 'save them'.

Funny thing is I thought my Ex was the complete opposite of that - responsible, together, reliable and stable. Everyone in my family thought I'd hit the jackpot and found a decent guy for a change.

Probably why it's so disappointing how he turned out to be. I really didn't see it coming. But I have decided to act differently already - I didn't keep his misbehavings hidden, didn't enable him. I left immediately and am resisting the urge to try and 'fix him'.

I suppose I will be tested if he ever come back and tries to suck me back into it. I need to be strong.