Your H gave you a gift in these exchanges. He gifted you the person he is TODAY. The texts were very revealing.
He seems about 18 and full of angst and frustration and rebellion and all the things any adolescent feels when breaking away from home. Use this as your marker on how to proceed in your own life. He has made it clear he is not the person who can handle the grown up responsibilities of parenting and marriage.
Your postings of the exchanges really helped me. The dissolution docs were sent from my atty to H yesterday. I found myself questioning whether this is the right thing and still wanting to hear my H resist the whole breaking up of our family.
When I read what your H wrote, I was reminded how crazee their thinking is... I'm doing the right thing and I've given it my all. H simply isn't in a place to grow up.
I could hear myself in the exchange you had with your H. I could hear myself trying to be the voice of reason with insanity.
I spent so much time beating my head against the brick wall trying, trying, trying, trying and TRYING to get him to see reality. It never worked.
Go Dark. Go black as night. :-) For yourself, not his.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
