I would take the positives that she's introduced you as her husband and is otherwise presenting an unified home front where she didn't even need to mention you.
I'm not up to speed with your sitch, is OM still in the picture?
-Pluto
H: 29 W: 27 No Kids
Together: 12/04 (9 years) Living: 02/09 (5 years) Married: 06/13 (11 months) ILYBNILWY: 01/14 Separate Bedrooms: 01/14 Discovered Affair: 02/14 (On-going) W Moved Out: 06/14