Question about LRT and Infidelity

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I've kept the niceness. I think the trick is to be nice enough that you aren't holding it against them for life. If they believe you could never let it go, they would be less likely to consider coming back. I have a friend who went through this and his W came back. I've talked to both he and her separately and while she is sorry it never really came down to a real apology. You either let it go and never bring it up or you don't. And not letting it go can't work.

Anyhow, I don't know which works best to be honest. But nice is part of who I am and who I choose to be. That is one of the few things I can honestly say is not been influenced by my want for her to come back.