Dealing with an ongoing affair

[PeterV2]

Yeah Sandi. She still hasn't come to the point where she sees how I have been affected by her A. She is self-centered and has yet to see the wider picture. But I truly feel there has been a turning point. She wants to go away with me for a week. She said tonight that she wants that time to see if we want to continue our life together.
She also said tonight that after she goes to our MC by herself that we should then go together. I'm hoping out MC who has been seeing me throughout the past 5 months will be able to help her see the pain she has caused me. Hard to say because she tends to take control of the counselling sessions. But our MC has been trained in SBT and I've insisted that she utilize those strategies in out situation. She is willing and able to do that.
I had me call with my DB coach this morning and he said to continue on my course. Whatever I'm doing seems to be working. My W is a very intelligent and capable woman. She does see that she has made mistakes. We spoke today of transparency. I said I would delete the crap I wrote on my computer so that I can share my password again and I invited her to delete any old text messages, pictures or content on her phone so she can share her phone content with me so we can start a new relationship and leave our past mistakes behind us. She was open to that. So I think we're slowly moving to a better place. She said she doesn't want to live a life where she dwells on the past, with all the blame and anger. Yes, she gets angry at me for her misery. It's a process she's going through. I'll just be constant and committed to the process. Hoping she'll come to realize her erroneous thinking. She told me today that I'm a good man and that she only wants the best for me and that any criticism is not against me but against those people in my life who have not honoured the goodness that I have.